The Heart of Transformation – My Fitness Journey in Progress

I don’t allow society or the ‘norm’ whatever that is to dictate my health, mind, or body – “She” belongs to me! ~ Ria

 

Seeing Your Hard Work Take Shape

So I woke up this morning no alarm slightly sore but glowing! Last night was an emotional day. I was releasing some unacknowledged pain and sadness I thought I’d already released during this New Moon, Full Moon, Moon Eclipse, Equinoxes, Blood Moons (- smirking- ) these past few months have been eye-opening and full of personal truth and resolution. Spiritual transformations and physical transformation!  I was feeling a bit sorry for myself, when I decided to pick up my bags (literal and metaphorical) and head for a swim.  Surely that water would help clear my head and aid my spirit.  I looked at my app and realized I had another work out before my Rest Day.  Yesterday being Leg Day, I was still slightly sore but in need of some transformation. Day 9, Chest and Triceps!

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Expanded Facility

This facility I hadn’t been to in months (maybe a year aside from the pool) had expanded. I was so surprised and excited once I discovered they had added new equipment even though tiny in room size, this gym was equipped with everything and more. Kettlebells, dumbbells, free weights, olympic bars, curl bars, tricep bars, hex bars, smith machines, mats, medicine balls, Bosu balls, exercise balls, weighted balls, massage balls! :‑O
It was an athletic dream aside from the Marine base gym I visited last year. This gym for the local public was dope! And I’m thinking how to make this a permanent gym while in the area because Planet Fitness is “ehhh!”

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September 4, 2018, Chest, Triceps, (added Abs, Calves and a Swim!)

I’m so amazed at how this transformation is taking shape- literally! ~ Ria

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Knowing What You Need and Listening to Your Body

In addition to the workout above, I added an abdominal routine! That left me sweating before my swim and jacuzzi session.  I will do this routine at least 4-5 times a week because it made my total routine complete. My abs are the hardest for me to loose and I realize that if I don’t focus on their development “it aint gonna happen!” After twin boys and a daughter and several C sections my abdominal wall split from its natural anatomy and unfortunately my pregnancies left me with extra skin that never stretched back to shape. Something like a Kate and 8 the mother (Kate Gosselin) who had the 8 babies and had to have an abdominoplasty to return her stomach to its original size, look, and aesthetic.

My Secret Body Shaming 

I was told by plastic surgeons I have a 6 pack under my extra skin! “Yuk,” “Yikes” and “Wow!” all at the same time. I was blown away at their comments “We had another very young women your age who did quite well! You have a fit body type.” This was at my 150lb body-weight at my initial consultation. I’ve pretty much been in a secret self body shaming cycle for the past ‘few’ years since taking on fitness and gave up a few times because my abdominal section just wouldn’t budge beyond the rock hard underneath the childbearing scaring.

I kept this in dire secret never telling a soul and its affected so much of my life including my sexuality and intimacy! I’ve since decided to say “Fuck it! I‘m gonna keep going no matter what and see what happens to the rest of my body!”  I have to see how far I can go. No, I have no interest in competing professionally or turning into a professional body builder! I just want to be REALLY FIT for my body type and my ideal look and feel, sorta like a  Jada’s-mom-fit, Angela-Bassett-fit aesthetic look! I have to defy my “age” and the societal norms that say being over 40 is old, and being ‘old’ means out of shape and struggling with dis-ease. (Especially in the Black community!) I say “NO” to the mental programming. I am choosing a lifestyle that is serving my highest good and the rest will follow and fall into place. This is for no one else but me – I owe myself this opportunity to shine!

 

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Ab Workout Routine: 2-3 Reps to Failure. Russian Twists (Weighted), Alternate Heel Touchers, Bottoms Up, Plank, Cocoons, Air Bikes, Side Planks, Elbow to Knee, Repeat, Repeat! This should leave you feeling an ‘ouch’ on your tummy – now you know you’ve got it in! (smile)

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September 4, 2018

 

Finding the Right Facility for Your Goals

I usually try to cover up during my workouts, I wear hoodies and zip up to my neck! While at Planet Fitness this week around 11pm (after work) I was surrounded by group of young Arab men who continuously commented on my physical “attributes.” Their comments made me so uncomfortable I gathered my water bottle and exited the gym. This new facility, however, was safe and well equipped for the novel fitness person as well as for the school athlete or military veteran all of whom were present yesterday evening.  It’s important to find the right facility for your goals and comfort level- not all are created equal so be objective, envision, and plan for your workout sessions accordingly.

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Friday,  August 31, 2018 – 122.7 lbs

I say “NO” to the mental programming. I am choosing a lifestyle that is serving my highest good and the rest will follow and fall into place. This is for no one else but me – I owe myself this opportunity to shine!  ~ Ria 

The Heart of Transformation

When I woke up and looked in the mirror my arms looked like well-sculpted parts of someone else’s body!!! I was blown away at how I had changed since January being closer to 150 lbs at 5 foot 0 inches. I don’t have a morning pic but a photo from last week I will share (pictured above). I’m so amazed at how this transformation is taking shape- literally! I am determined to be 50 and fabulous (in just a few short years ahead!) I really didn’t mind my 150 lbs body to be honest, “thick” is trendy and desirable these days so women at almost any size feel appreciated, loved, and happy with their body type and weight. For me, however, I wanted to simply ‘see’ what transformation looks like on me. I am proving to myself that I can go all the way to make significant gains on my own terms and in my own “time.” Plus I have a goal (image) in my head that wont disappear no matter how lazy or non motivated I get from time to time. I get back up and get back in and keep it moving. I keep hearing the voice “You can do better! You’re more than this!” And its this voice that keeps me on this focus of self-transformation and consistency.

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January 2018 at 150lbs

 

I really didn’t mind my 150 lbs body to be honest, “thick” is trendy and desirable these days so women at almost any size feel appreciated, loved, and happy with their body type and weight. ~ Ria

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January 2018 Collage as the Thick Ria

 

Fit in Progress Pics

I can actually see the difference in my body shape taking form. I was afraid my arms would get too muscular and have me looking like a little man woman but they are actually looking good, still feminine, but slightly defined and toned. I love ♡  it! A few more tweaks and it’s all maintenance from here!

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From Thick Girl to Fit Girl – Progress Pic- August 2018

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122.7 lbs – Slowly but surely, hard work taking shape! 08-31-18 as the Fit Ria

If I can inspire just one person to eat healthy, exercise, and continue to learn (mentally and spiritually) then I’m doing my job here on this planet Earth!

Be Happy, Be Abundant, Be Empowered! 

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Wisdom of the Elders – recognizing and making sacred kinnections on your journey

making sacred kinnections on your journey

Neuroplasticity speaks to the ability to rewire the brain through forming new connections via stimuli (expanded environment) activating synapses to strengthen cortical organization systems, synaptic (neuro) connections, and even cortical remapping.

Today,I choose to embody the now!

 

“Pushing our self past our boundaries of limitation and extreme, sometimes to something that knocks off our comfort zone, it creates new neuro pathways with our brain, we become smarter, wiser, more clarity, our life becomes more fulfilling. Only because we have a totally new experience. We get a new brain with that. Neuroplasticity” ― Angie Karan


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As  I was walking from The Mall (Washington, DC) to the metro, I was approached by an older woman with a mix of glowing goddess, mother wisdom, and dingy crone. Ironically, she looked eerily like an older sister (or cousin) to Jada Pinkett Smith so much so that I not only asked if they were related, but insisted that they being from Baltimore had to be secretly related! Her mannerisms, her voice, eye color, facial features, finger pointing, head rolls, foot stomps, and satirical laughter all told my spirit this was a far off cousin to sister Jada (and it spooked me when she said they had no family ties). I still don’t believe it! I will call her Jada’s Twin and Tridevi (interchangeably throughout this story).

She looked like she had walked a few miles covered in body sweat and with a shirt unusually dirty for just a walk or jog around The Mall. Initially, I mistook her for a homeless woman, but what she afforded me was one of the most priceless spiritual encounters I’ve had to date!  When you begin to elevate your life in such a way that you start living on a higher vibration those encounters with people take on a whole new meaning; impressions, experiences, and the people you meet speak to you very differently than the norm. Messages are strongly felt. You wonder how in the hell she knew exactly what you were going through or where you are in life. You can’t believe this person is offering you the best advice and wisdom you’ve ever received for right now in the now. And you realize it’s not only coming from her, but through her from a higher source. That you are indeed experiencing a magical moment in time.

Jada’s twin soul  spoke to me the way a mother speaks to a child with respect, nurture, and strength! When I revealed my age, she laughed, “Girl imma have to get your ID, on that one? You remind me of my younger days with the hot pants and the head-wraps of the 70s! You looking like you stepped right out the 70s!” Her stories were examples of what a woman must live up to (at any age), the power we posses, how it our duty to give back to our community creatively – to reach and teach the young, to connect with the generations after us to fill the void that social media and fake news has programmed and socialized human behavior.

She spoke of our unique struggle in America from her days in the 60s of the Civil Rights Movement to what is happening to our collective psychology and women’s self esteem, identity, and distorted perception of self.  She reinserted the need for our activism in the beautiful struggle we are born into while residing in America and as global citizens around the world, the responsibility and accountability we must continually be winning no matter what challenges we face. We are to get back up, strategize, and play our part with love in our hearts, carrying our deep sense of knowing within us, stand on our square, and speak for our Ancestors and Children’s children.

In our short time together we spoke of grace and she reminded me that walking with humility and empowerment is also surrender to god, the higher force within us all. How to listen and obey god and the art of surrender was necessary to balance our spiritual and emotional well-being, physical health, and maintain success.

What was so remarkable to me was her way of speaking and teaching through a story of example. She never said “this is what you should do” or asked” what role are you playing Sis?” She only referenced her personal history, her daughter’s struggle in the corporate fashion world and how (because of her mother’s and grandmothers strong beliefs and teachings) she continues to stand firm on her square to be a voice for those who don’t either have a voice or the consciousness to understand.

As we walked from the gold sandy dirt off the National Mall grounds, she led me South West to the edge of a beautiful outdoor garden I had never seen or known to reside. It was unlike the other gardens I had been that week, this one was not only appealing to the eyes, but allured with the most inviting aromas which I wanted to taste as I did as a child when I’d pick flowers to eat while in the woods alone. This Tridevi had afforded me with a luxury of wisdom to chew on as I made my way to the metro and driving back home; i ate and pondered, ate and agreed, ate and released, ate while reconciling, ate and gave thanks that this magical meeting occurred at just the right time, on just the right day, at just the right moment in my life. I am forever grateful and realize the power of making sacred kinnections (connections) while on your journey. And look forward to when I can be of service and pay it forward to a younger sister in need of Tridevi ageless goddess wisdom. 😉

In Love! 

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Ria (Daria)